My Boyfriend Wants Sex

Dear Phill:

I am 16 years old and my boyfriend is 17. I am a virgin and he is not, but he wants to have sex with me. I am not ready but am afraid if I don't he'll break up with me. I like this guy a lot but I am not too sure. What should I do?

- S.P.

Dear S.P.:

Virgins are like treasure to some guys. When they sleep with one, they brag to all of their friends and talk about how good it was, then wait for their friends to pat them on the back. Pretty soon all that treasure will be spent; then what will you be left with? A "reputation".

You only get to be a virgin once and after that there is no turning back. I'm willing to bet that your boyfriend is proud that you are a virgin; proud of himself, that is, because he has one. You have a right to be proud of yourself as well. If your boyfriend truly loves you, he'll respect your wishes and wait till you are ready, because you can't truly love someone without respecting them.